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  1. Desperately looking for an emergency GCSE ENGLISH AND MATHS TUTOR – does anyone have any suggestions? I have a 16 year old son who is taking his GCSE’s this year. He is currently undiagnosed, but as he is not the only one in the family with ADHD, when he had a meltdown just before Easter and we realised that he was way behind in all of his GCSE coursework, had done very little work towards his GCSE’s and had decided that the bast way to deal with the stress was to skip school for a few weeks, we realised the reason. He’s back on some sort of track for some of his subjects, but he is very worried in particular about his English (esp Literature) and also would like some help with his Maths. If any of you know of someone that I could contact in the Kingston/Richmond/Wimbledon area (or beyond… but not too far), please, please let me know asap. Thanks 🙂

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  2. My 6year old has been diagnosed and medicated from 4year old it’s hard work but I love her to bits

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  3. Hi I am an Adult with ADHD as with the other 60% of people who were diagnosed as an adolescent I have continued to experience symptoms of ADHD into Adulthood the notion that ADHD is simply a childhood diagnosis and problem is a grave misrepresentation of the current scientific understanding of the persistence of ADHD IN ADULTS. It seems as though your site hasn’t been updated from 20 years ago, you don’t even have a section dedicated to Adult ADHD? and you continually refer to ADHD as a childhood problem. I have major concerns that this does little to help either current children with a diagnosis and that treatment just stops and everything’s magically better the moment you turn eighteen is patently absurd it’s also dangerous and misleading. The reality is more than half of those diagnosed with ADHD will require ongoing treatment and assistance for the duration of their lives including medication that’s the reality and the consequences of ignoring this need for ongoing treatment us demonstrated to lead to much poorer outcome for those who at eighteen are suddenly unable to access treatment and medication could you please address this concerning oversight asap thanks
    For Any Parents or Adults Requiring up to date information or assistance in obtaining treatment please contact AdhdAdultAlive@outlook.com and I will be more than happy to help point you in the right direction and I also provide advice and ongoing assistance 🙂

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    • Dear Sir,
      As you will have noticed on our website heading we are a support Group for parents and carers of children with ADHD. We are not set up as an ADULT service which of course has its own very special requirements and pathways.
      On our tab https://adhdrichmond.org/what-is-adhd/living/ at the bottom of the page we refer to the UK Adult Network for the transition to adulthood.
      Our website is updated every day as you will see from the home page events and news.
      Thank you for your interest

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  4. I love helping people and I am passionate about people seeing the positives of ADHD and other co-occuring conditions. Personally, if there was a button I could press to get rid of it I would build a protective case around it. I would never press it. But my friends might at times. I would get rid of the bi-polar though. I don’t like that.

    There is a young offender in my area. Street robbery, violence and many other things. He has been arrested over 50 times. He was in our custody suite. I said hello as I walked through as I recognised his face (looks like butter wouldn’t melt). I say “Are you alright?” His mum, sat there all savvy like, says “No you gonna get him an officer, we’ve been here two hours, he’s got ADHD and gonna kick off soon.” I looked at him and said “No he won’t.” He looked up at me very confused. I said “I have ADHD, it don’t make you kick off, it makes you easily bored and frustrated, but it is your choice if you kick off, not ADHD.” He looked gobsmacked. I said, “Do you have a phone?” He said, “Yes.” I said ,“Have you got games on that phone?” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Why don’t you play on it until you get bored then play a different one and a different one. Listen to some music, do a dance. But there is no way kicking off will be happening and be related to ADHD.” I went and found an officer and the boy was fine. I think he is normally able to trick people. I sat with mum, who I believe also has ADHD and went through stuff, and listened to her for two hours. So it went over my shift. Oh dear. Still, I saw that kid a couple of weeks later with his mates. I said hello to him, he smiled and said hello back. Needless to say he doesn’t normally do polite to kids. So I knew my little seeds had been planted. I do hate people blaming that stuff on ADHD. We are never going to get real understanding and support if people go around thinking everyone with ADHD is violent. Grrrr. It is just coping mechanisms to help combat the frustration, lack of confidence, risk-taking that gets us there. If you lock us in a room with nothing we might kick off quicker due to needing to be active. But even the most patient kids/adults would kick off over time. It’s just that our fuse is smaller. Our confidence is non existent. So we expect to fail. So our barriers are higher than others. Its all common sense to me. Sorry, waffling again. I am a bloody pain.

    I do hope our kids get more help and understanding then we did. So there’s less adults running about with anger or confidence issues or mental health issues that are there from all those years of self doubt. Makes me sad.

    P.S. I ain’t saying folk with ADHD don’t kick off. I’ve seen it enough times. I just mean if we can give them coping mechanisms to stop it getting to that point, then there’s no need for them to feel upset. But sometimes it’s inevitable. But it’s mainly from frustration.

    Anonymous to protect all parties

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  5. In the light of recent events on the exclusion of an autistic child from participating in a school trip I feel the need to write this. There are boys and girls that nobody invites to birthdays for example. There are special kids who want to belong to a team but don’t get selected because it is more important to win than include these children. Children with special needs are not rare or strange, they only want what everyone else wants: to be accepted !! Can I ask a question? Is there anyone willing to copy and paste this message? Thank you

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  6. Michelle Rocha Allard

    To label these children ‘naughty’ or to blame bad parenting or diet does a disservice to those living with the condition which very often co-exists with one or more other conditions like aspergers, autism, learning disabilities, developmental delay, dyslexia, dyspraxia, hypermobility, dysgraphia, Tourette’s, tics, anxiety, depression & bipolar. If you have a child predominantly diagnosed with ADHD you will know it is NOT over-diagnosed. It takes years and involves time, observation and reports from many different specialists in different fields and support (or lack of) from a child’s school. It is a soul destroying battle every step of the way to get the diagnosis (which you don’t care about but NEED) in order to get your child the support and help he/she deserves to achieve their full potential and be able to find their place in the world. Once you get a diagnosis of ADHD prepare yourself for tutting and eye rolling from people/public/family who don’t believe there is such a thing and think it’s just a label for hyperactive, ill disciplined children with no boundaries and a diet of sweets & fizzy drinks. Very often these children are isolated from friendship groups and sadly so are their parents! Take a trip to the local supermarket and you will pick up more than your weekly shopping. Expect a large dose of scorn and judgemental or pitying looks and sometimes even wise words of advice from ‘well meaning’? members of the public. Staying in is so much more appealing but why should you? I’m bored of apologising or feeling the need to explain but if people were to be more educated I’m sure everyone would benefit from more tolerance and much needed support.
    Michelle Rocha Allard

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  7. I just wanted to let you know how helpful I have found the website. I am getting help filling the EHC plan from ISP and they are coming to my house tomorrow. I only contacted them on Weds and have a deadline for the end of term!! So great speedy response.

    They were delighted that I was their first port of call. I told them all about our website and they have taken all the details for others and were very impressed.
    Love Trish

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  8. Take my hand and come with me
    I want to teach you about ADHD
    I need you to know, I want to explain,
    I have a very different brain
    Sights sounds and thoughts collide
    What to do first? I can’t decide
    Please understand I’m not to blame
    I just can’t process things the same

    Take my hand and walk with me
    Let me show you about ADHD
    I try to behave, I want to be good
    But I sometimes forget to do as I should
    Walk with me and wear my shoes
    You’ll see its not the way I’d choose
    I do know what I’m supposed to do
    But my brain is slow getting the message through

    Take my hand and talk with me
    I want to tell you about ADHD
    I rarely think before I talk
    I often run when I should walk
    It’s hard to get my school work done
    My thoughts are outside having fun
    I never know just where to start
    I think with my feelings and see with my heart

    Take my hand and stand by me
    I need you to know about ADHD
    It’s hard to explain but I want you to know
    I can’t help letting my feelings show
    Sometimes I’m angry, jealous or sad
    I feel overwhelmed, frustrated and mad
    I can’t concentrate and I loose all my stuff
    I try really hard but it’s never enough

    Take my hand and learn with me
    We need to know more about ADHD
    I worry a lot about getting things wrong
    everything I do takes twice as long
    everyday is exhausting for me
    Looking through the fog of ADHD
    I’m often so misunderstood
    I would change in a heartbeat if I could

    Take my hand and listen to me
    I want to share a secret about ADHD
    I want you to know there is more to me
    I’m not defined by it you see
    I’m sensitive, kind and lots of fun
    I’m blamed for things I haven’t done
    I’m the loyalist friend you’ll ever know
    I just need a chance to let it show

    Take my hand and look at me
    Just forget about the ADHD
    I have real feelings just like you
    The love in my heart is just as true
    I may have a brain that can never rest
    But please understand I’m trying my best
    I want you to know, I need you to see
    I’m more than the label, I am still me!!!!

    By Andrea Chesterman-Smith

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  9. My son (8) started medication for ADHD last year. He was such a “outside” little kid! Over the past summer, he started really getting into video games. We have lost contact with a few friends because their kids don’t understand my kid. My 8yr old picks up on the fact that other kids don’t want to play with him, as he is quite overwhelming. (Talks excessively, out of turn, hyper). My heart breaks for him, but also for the friendships we lost. I feel like the video games are a place he feels safe and can’t be a failure. It is spinning out of control though. I have to drag him out of the house. He doesn’t want to sign up for sports. We limit how much time he gets on video games on the weekdays. Should I make him do a sport or some sort of activity? He goes to a after school program through the week, as my husband and I both work full time and he has been in day care since he was 6weeks old, so he has had plenty of social experiences, but is still lacking with social skills. I hate to see him miss out on something that could be fun for him, but also do not want to add more stress on myself if he doesn’t like whatever I sign him up for and it’s a battle every time I make him go!

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  10. Yes, everyone, everyone, has every single symptom of ADHD in one way or another, and that’s why it can be confusing sometimes. Of course people get bored and distracted, duh, especially smart people! However it only becomes a medical disorder once it seriously negatively affects multiple parts of your life. Simply finding it hard to study does not qualify you.

    I actually have it and struggle with it every day, even with remembering to brush my teeth or take my wallet, take the right exit, or not lock my keys in my car an embarrassingly often number of times. I have to take stimulant medication AND I have to employ many other strategies like checklists and maintaining redundancies for the key failure points throughout the day i.e. I keep a spare key hidden under my car and even that is not enough on a lot of days my mind goes awol.

    But the thing I especially struggle is the one I want to be great at, mathematics. You know, the thing actual nerds are good at? I want to be decent, I practice everyday, my field of study demands I be great at it. But it is still such an effort for me compared with my peers, visualizing numbers and equations has me scrambling them and losing them in my head, even a couple of symbols can be difficult to visualize in my minds eye. I have to draw lots of visualizations and write out every single easy step down, I have to write down lots of comments about the processes I am about to follow because I am unable to keep them static in my head. However my condition makes it hard for me to do that, especially when time is on the line, and that’s why ADHD students get the quiet room and extra time for exams.
    On a good productive day, I waste less than half of the test just looking and hearing around the room. I had to repeat a lot of math classes in my life, but I still push onwards. Two steps forward, one step back.

    I’ve never had a problem with my programming classes for some reason, Never got anything less than an A, but I have had so many different calculus professors during college, its really quite sad and embarrassing.

    In fact a lot of my life is quite sad and embarrassing due to my ADHD, and I would never ever tell you I have it, unless you were super close to me, I haven’t even told my parents. I don’t want the stigma that comes along with it.

    Also being distracted and not getting things done, quickly spirals out to an anxious episode, and then eventually the anxiety and the failing of the thing I wanted to attempt rolls me into a horrible depression. But if I have my ADHD in check, I don’t get as anxious and I don’t get depressed and I can consistently sleep at night. Ludicrous as it sounds, amphetamines cured most of my insomnia

    ADHD is not something to be proud of or even mock. It’s a black hole in my brain where some grey matter should be, and there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it other than learn to live around it, form good habits, and take my pills which I hate to depend on, and hate having to admit I need them. I really do feel like a mental amputee.

    Sorry for the rant, It’s just a frustrating and emotional issue for me

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  11. It is unfortunate that there is still this level of ignorance with respect to the very real diagnosis of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD. It is even more unfortunate that many children with ADHD have been further subjected to this ignorance by being told their disorder is not “real.”
    Nearly every mainstream medical, psychological and educational organization long ago concluded that ADHD is a real brain-based medical disorder notwithstanding the many shortcomings of our educational system.

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  12. I have an almost 12 y/O with adhd who is way to curious about sex, too the point he has searched it out on the internet and everything. he’s getting in trouble in school for making inappropriate comments to girls and touching in inapppropriate places ie rubbing their leg and showing unwanted attention, i am lost dazed and confused i have had a very open discussion with my child about sex and he see’s a therapist on a regular basis to deal with his impulsive behavior and we are getting nowhere. he has no friends and he is pushing the limits in everything, as a parent all i seem to be able to do is watch him self destruct..i don’t know the answers and i am not even sure what the question is or was anymore, as a parent it is very difficult to know how to help a your child with all of these confusing things in life if they won’t even tell you what is going on in their little heads, the saddest part in all of this is i know i have an intelligent funny sensitve young man in the making now how do i go about directing his energies in the right path?!?!?!?!? ahhh, the dilemmas of parenting!!!

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  13. I began to feel proud of myself when I learned that my intelligence could not be determined by a grade. I began to focus on my efforts and not what grade I got. I stopped comparing myself to my peers who said, “I didn’t study and I got an A!” I knew I studied for hours and I got a C, but I worked hard that mattered to me. I created my own scale, with effort and personal achievements as the markers of success. I began to see ADHD as a learning ability as opposed to a disability because ADHD has made me persevere through adversity, a life skill not learned when everything comes easily

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  14. I’ve been diagnosed after spending a lot of time with specialists — they’ve run me through intensive tests and interviews, they’ve looked at other possibilities, and they’ve done follow-up appointments.

    My diagnosis with ADHD came after several years of struggling both at school and at home. It was not only hard for me to get things done, it was also hard for me to interact with other kids at school. I was bullied every year because the kids and the teachers were fed up with the way I acted. There wasn’t anything productive or happy in my school days. I was going to school — but I was not gaining an education.

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  15. One of my teachers thought I should quit his class early this year because I was not behaving the way he thought I should. He never asked what was happening that was making our whole class so frustrated.

    He talked to the counselors on my behalf, maybe the principal too. He was building a case because he was sure he knew what is best for me. I guess it didn’t fly, but man!

    Why does everyone else think they know what’s best for me & my ADHD? Do you know what I mean? People hink my parents are bad parents, or they think they know what I should do with my time… but they don’t ask me.

    Check out my new post about ‪#‎ADHD‬ Misconceptions – and let me know your stories in the comments. http://www.adhdkidsrock.com/adhd-misconceptions/

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  16. We told our son that his brain moves fast, like a sports car, but the brakes in his car are old and can’t slow down his brain

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  17. ADHD is about having broken filters on your perception. Normal people have a sort of mental secretary that takes the 99% of irrelevant crap that crosses their mind, and simply deletes it before they become consciously aware of it. As such, their mental workspace is like a huge clean whiteboard, ready to hold and organize useful information.

    ADHD people… have no such luxury. Every single thing that comes in the front door gets written directly on the whiteboard in bold, underlined red letters, no matter what it is, and no matter what has to be erased in order for it to fit.

    As such, if we’re in the middle of some particularly important mental task, and our eye should happen to light upon… a doorknob, for instance, it’s like someone burst into the room, clad in pink feathers and heralded by trumpets, screaming HEY LOOK EVERYONE, IT’S A DOORKNOB! LOOK AT IT! LOOK! IT OPENS THE DOOR IF YOU TURN IT! ISN’T THAT NEAT? I WONDER HOW THAT ACTUALLY WORKS DO YOU SUPPOSE THERE’S A CAM OR WHAT? MAYBE ITS SOME KIND OF SPRING WINCH AFFAIR ALTHOUGH THAT SEEMS KIND OF UNWORKABLE.

    It’s like living in a soft rain of post-it notes.This happens every single waking moment, and we have to manually examine each thought, check for relevance, and try desperately to remember what the thing was we were thinking before it came along, if not. Most often we forget, and if we aren’t caught up in the intricacies of doorknob engineering, we cast wildly about for context, trying to guess what the hell we were up to from the clues available.

    On the other hand, we’re extremely good at working out the context of random remarks, as we’re effectively doing that all the time anyway.

    We rely heavily on routine, and 90% of the time get by on autopilot. You can’t get distracted from a sufficiently ingrained habit, no matter what useless crap is going on inside your head… unless someone goes and actually disrupts your routine. I’ve actually been distracted out of taking my lunch to work, on several occasions, by my wife reminding me to take my lunch to work. What the? Who? Oh, yeah, will do. Where was I? um… briefcase! Got it. Now keys.. okay, see you honey!

    Also, there’s a diminishing-returns thing going on when trying to concentrate on what you might call a non-interactive task. Entering a big block of numbers into a spreadsheet, for instance. Keeping focused on the task takes exponentially more effort each minute, for less and less result. If you’ve ever held a brick out at arm’s length for an extended period, you’ll know the feeling. That’s why the internet, for instance, is like crack to us – it’s a non-stop influx of constantly-new things, so we can flick from one to the next after only seconds. Its better/worse than pistachios.

    The exception to this is a thing we get called hyper focus. Occasionally, when something just clicks with us, we can get ridiculously deeply drawn into it, and NOTHING can distract us. We’ve locked our metaphorical office door, and we’re not coming out for anything short of a tornado.

    Medication takes the edge off. It reduces the input, it tones down the fluster, it makes it easier to ignore trivial stuff, and it increases the maximum focus-time. Imagine steadicam for your skull. It also happens to make my vision go a little weird and loomy occasionally, and can reduce appetite a bit.

    Hope this helps and please do share this so that more people can learn what its really like to have ADHD.

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  18. Thank you to Val for organising (the March 3 Talk) and Professor Hill for such an entertaining and interesting session. For the first time ever, I feel I have the information to make a much more informed choice re medication. Brilliant!! Please pass on my respect and gratitude to Prof. Hill.

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  19. I am an adult with ADHD – though not so much the hyper part now. I was diagnosed as a child. I can tell you that my mother was NOT a lazy parent and was very involved. I was a handful. She decided against medicines and instead taught me what we would now call behaviour therapy and coping skills. I managed fairly well. I can still struggle at times with being what I call scattered. For me, lists and schedules help. I don’t have to live every moment by a plan and calendar but by assigning tasks to certain days, making lists, and keeping to a basic routine, I am less likely to drop the ball on day to day routine tasks and organization. In fact, I tend to over compensate but it works for me. Lists are my friends, so is my ADHD. Sounds odd I know, but I have a unique perspective, I am creative, and have a larger than life imagination. Struggles and challenges aside, I wouldn’t change it. Hope all the parents out there struggling with ADHD kids can hang onto to their sanity and enjoy their unique little people.
    Wendy

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  20. Large numbers of children, teenagers and adults with ADHD are failing to reach their potential, being excluded from classrooms, getting suspended and expelled from schools and colleges as well as getting sacked from jobs because of traits that is just part of who they are. I feel as a society we need to change our approach to conditions such as ADHD and bring a better understanding of differences (Niall)

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  21. As a child, I always struggled with paying attention in class or even keeping my desk in order. Teachers were always calling my parents into conferences about my ‘behaviour’ and would try to move me to lower-level classes because they thought I was slow or lazy or both. Once I got to secondary school, I realised that my inattentiveness and way of talking (jumping from one seemingly related story to another at the speed of light) made it harder to make friends or connect with people, so I would get more anxious about focusing all the time. Reading was the hardest of all, because I would read a sentence and then drift off and then realise I read 20 pages without actually processing anything because I was in my own thoughts.
    I was never formally diagnosed, but my mother read my symptoms in a book and it made me feel better about my brain and helped me learn that I wasn’t some loser who didn’t want to focus or work hard. It was just more difficult for me.
    With age, it’s become so much easier, and sometimes I think of ADHD as a weird blessing creatively because I’m always working on something — I’m never just stuck on one project and I end up accomplishing more that way. So many artistic people have ADHD and have simply learned to channel it into something very positive. Julia

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  22. School and projects were always hard because I always want to do a million things at once and then it’s overwhelming when I have a lot of half-done things. Once I started understanding it as an ‘over-awareness’ of my surroundings, I started to just convince myself I only had this one thing to do (whatever it may be), I have an easier time finishing it. Basically, understanding it this way makes me less harsh with myself about it and know exactly what strengths and weaknesses come from it.

    Overall, I still have trouble in conversations with people and having to backtrack and say what my thought process was. A lot of the time, when someone is getting to know me, they assume I’m changing the subject when there is actually a linear progression in my mind so it IS related even if it’s not apparent. I think it’s the most difficult with people who think very linearly but I find if I take the time to explain what’s going on in my head, people are more on board. Overall, I try to embrace it as an asset because it allows me to think differently than other people which is ideal for someone in a creative field

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    • Hi
      Such a brilliant and positive approach . I agree that it can be such a huge asset – working with young people with adhd, what becomes clear is that you can learn to stop and (aim to ) concentrate on one thing at a time, but you can’t’ learn’ a creative brain ! So learning to be linear is something worth working at but never lose that unique creativity that is your brains real advantage ! Thanks for sharing that 😉

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  23. I was always getting into trouble at school. The teacher used to tell me off for not sitting still, I’d try to sit down but it was hard – I would just want to get up and walk around. I was always getting into trouble for talking. The other children in my class would sit still and finish their work but I found this hard.
    Mum and dad said I had a lot of energy. Sometimes my friends would tell me I was over the top. Mum says she couldn’t take me anywhere when I was younger because I was so noisy and always on the go.
    In the end, mum and dad took me to a clinic for children who have problems. They said I have ADHD and talked to my parents and teachers about how to help me. They gave me some medication. My mum and dad think it helps. I don’t seem to get told off so much and can do my school work better. (Ben, 11yrs old)

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    • Well done Ben- you aren’t alone ! The things you describe are so common for children and young people with adhd- sitting still can be really hard when your brain and body just want to GO ! I’m pleased your teachers and the meds are helping you – I bet there are loads of things you do really well too.
      Val 😉

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  24. If local government no longer has the financial capacity to support early intervention in children’s mental health services, it is essential that these services are provided elsewhere. If they are not, and early intervention services continue to be cut, we will see more children and young people needing more intensive and more expensive support for mental illness, a situation that will cost millions and cause extreme distress and pain to thousands of young people and their families across the country.
    Lucie Russell
    Director of campaigns, YoungMinds

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  25. Wishing all ADHDers a Merry Christmas and a successful, Happy New Year from ADHD Richmond

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  26. Seven years ago I sat in a consulting room at our local hospital and was told my son suffered with ADHD. Like many people I had never heard of the condition before. I remember being overcome with relief that it wasn’t me being a terrible parent who couldn’t control her child – that there was some explanation why Alex behaved the way he did. Alex couldn’t keep still for a moment and neither did I – trying to keep up with him. I cannot remember the amount of times I was told: ‘Don’t worry, he’ll grow out of it. He’s just a boy.” But he never did.
    Toddler groups, playgroups and nursery were all a nightmare and although other parents appeared to be sympathetic, I knew my son was socially different and didn’t fit into the mould. Family outings and shopping trips became a nightmare. People felt sorry for me, I was exhausted and losing the plot.
    The hardest thing for me during this time was the feeling of isolation that Alex’s condition brought. No one seemed to understand his behaviour or see the real child underneath. Alex was a happy, intelligent, sensitive and, above all, loving child who received knock-backs at every turn from school, peers and outside activities. This would grow to the point where I watched his self esteem replaced by anger and frustration.
    Following Alex’s diagnosis – as with most children with this condition – medication in the form of Ritalin was offered to us to help him. The thought of medicating my child caused endless anxieties, yet we felt he deserved the chance if it worked.
    The result was miraculous. Suddenly we had a window of opportunity to work with him. He would sit and concentrate for short periods of time, he was less challenging, and he seemed generally calmer. Alex was able to cope better with the school environment and we started being able to go out as a family. We felt normal.
    The biggest lifesaver for me was being signposted to the local support group. A phone call to a complete stranger one evening, who understood what I was going through, became my lifeline.

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  27. Dr Hector Perera, London
    A child’s teacher may be the first person to suspect that a child has ADHD, especially if he is hyperactive and often disrupts class. As an experienced teacher, I must say that I have come across a number of such cases but they had to be dealt very tactfully. However, parents may notice signs of ADHD before the child begins school, such as problems with social skills and disruptive behaviour. Alternatively, parents may realize that their child is having problems if she does poorly at school. If you or your child’s teacher suspect your child might have ADHD, your child should be assessed by a doctor or psychologist.

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  28. Anthony – 14 – I used to get annoyed by people in school, and when I got angry, they used to get me into trouble with the teachers. if anything went wrong at school, the teachers used to automatically blame me. I used to find it very hard at school, and I didn’t know how to cope. Every time I did something wrong at school, my relationship with my parents seemed to fade out. I used to be very impulsive, which also contributed to the decisions I made. But know I am learning how to control my ADHD, and now I can achieve my full potential at school. I didn’t used to like taking medication, but now I realise that it can slow me down which allows me to think properly and make the right decisions.

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    • What a great story Anthony ! Seems like you have really got the balance right now between being yourself and using the meds to help you slow down and concentrate well at school. Very impressed- it sounds as though it’s been a tough challenge but you’ve managed to bring it round. Well done 😎

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  29. Fred Brittin, 15

    I have ADD inatentive I think its like striking a balance between being self servant and not seeing it as a handicap, and being a little bitch about it and saying it limits you entirely

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    • It’s true it is a fine line between understanding how ADHD impacts you but not using it as a reason to not try . There are loads of examples of people who demonstrate their creative brilliance whilst managing some of the challenges with persistence and positive encouragement . Great blogs

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  30. Anna Dragicevic – 21. Because of my behaviour, I got bullied at school which made it even worse, I started developing symptoms of other mental health problems. I felt like my head was going to explode but I didn’t feel like I could go to anybody. The waiting lists for treatment are just too long. It took six months to get in contact, another six months to get an appointment, by that time I was like, do you know what, I give up. Talking with friends helped me to feel better. It was difficult to get older people, particularly teachers, to understand my condition. The older generation look at you like you’re making excuses and there’s actually nothing wrong with you.Therapies like counselling are the way forward

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  31. I’m 15 and I have ADD inattentive type and I think its all about getting the valence right, don’t give up trying just because you have a learning difficulty, and don’t refuse help if people offer it. Also it makes you impulsive so don’t go down the wrong path coz you’ll fall faster

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  32. I feal restles and frustrated
    Bord and tierd
    And distracted
    I am 11

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  33. I’ve been struck over the last year how many schools and SENCOs are eager for more information about working with ADHD. To match this there is now more training and support available for teaching staff. I think we are making a difference in Richmond and although it’s far from perfect , every step supports another child or young person . The voices of the parents in the support group is making the difference ! Val

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